Should you love your wedding venue?
I write this from the past as a bride. Hindsight is a marvellous leveller and can make our seemingly sane choices seem crazy. However I think that it is important to recognise that as a bride you are making
decisions without the benefit of hindsight. The pressures are present and are palpable. It is now or never.
And now a step back in time.
So without sounding too pompous or spoilt, I don't love my venue. (Oh it appears I am like a little child.)
I do love it's location (nestled away from prying eyes) I do love it's price (exponentially cheaper than it's non-existent equivalent in London) I do love that it has accommodation (everyone can stay in the house or very close-by) I do love it's flexibility…
I just didn't love 'it'.
Why is that a problem? Well I guess it isn't and I should relent because the deposit is down, we are about to make the next big instalment and I love my suppliers. I was never going to
find the "perfect" venue. Mainly because it probably doesn't exist and if it did it would be completely out of our financial league…
Getting married somewhere fancy? Image Credit Cotton Candy Weddings. Full feature here
I just cannot shake off the fact it is not quite what I wanted. Perhaps a niggling worry that I would like to be married in church despite being completely non religious.
So why am I so troubled? There are far more important things to worry about. Indeed I should be obsessing over who will be our fiscal policy and how this may affect me and my country. So why am I obsessed over such dismally unimportant details? Oh yes, because I would love to be a perfectionist!
Getting married in a yurt? Image credit Marshal Gray Photography See full feature here
So what is problem? Superficial anna strikes, as the venue does not possess the most aesthetically pleasing interior. (Bloody delicious blogs with your beautiful venues). It's far from hideous (pretty much
as far from hideous as you can get), I guess it is just not what I thought I wanted. Gosh, I sound so spoilt and ungrateful. Let me try and explain. The space is set up well. The ceremony room is a beautiful wood panelled room (albeit with a bit too much red for my liking). It just doesn't ooze the grandeur of other venues I have spied! There are no uber high ceilings with beautiful architectural focal points. We will pretty much be getting married in front of a fireplace (roaring and making me "glow") but it is just a fireplace. Although what am I expecting, cherubs with lyres on the back of unicorns?
Anna exchanging vows with her husband. By the fireplace. Image credit Emma Case
My other problem is the Chapel (obviously deconsecrated). It is just a little spartan for me. There are still remnants of it's past. Some are perfect. There is a raised platform perfect for a band or other
entertainment, there is a mini minstrel's gallery perfect for my brother's "fantastic" idea of a super punch bong (that boy gets super excited by the thought of punch) and the room is long enough for my
dream of long table banqueting!
Getting married at the Registry Office? Photo Credit Dominique Bader Full feature here
However, the wood panelling strikes again but this time only to waist height and then the attack of the super "methodist" stone wall commences. There is nothing really wrong with this save the slight barn feeling I get from it. (Nothing wrong with barns just not my style.) So I moan when there psychedelic carpets and then I moan when there is nothing to see. What can I say
apart from I'm a complex girl!
Getting married in the cinema? Image Credit Emily Quinton Full blog feature here.
I was so excited by the venue when I first met it on a cold day in October. I just think I need to see it through new eyes and appreciate how lucky I actually am! I have plenty of ideas to remedy
these "problems" but fear I lack the creative drive, ability or funds to make things pretty. (Although, who has carpet in the master suite bathroom or in any bathroom??! That is truly unforgivable.)
So how did you reconcile less than optimistic thoughts about venues or vendors? Did you change venues or stick with it and for those marrieds amongst you, how did it turn out on the day?
Anna
Anna is the blogger behind Far From The Wedding Crowd. You can also find her on Twitter and Facebook. We'd love for you to join in the discussion below. You can read other posts by Anna on Love My Dress here.
