I have wanted to write a more personal (less business) post for some time now, and, whilst sat up at what would seem to most a horribly ungodly hour, the thoughts and energy to write this post came about (that's what comes of falling asleep with your children whilst putting them to bed).  And anyway, I have exciting personal news that I'm dying to share with you.

We are moving house!

We are going to live in the country, by the place we love, by the place we chose to marry, by the place that holds so much family history for us.

The last time I moved house was to make the big move from The Midlands up North, to be with my then boyfriend, now husband, Phil, who at the time, had a beautiful design unit in the centre of Newcastle city centre.  It was an exciting adventure, moving to a totally new area. I fell in love with the Geordies and relaxed north east lifestyle.  After a stint of renting a flat together for 18 months, Phil and I chose to move in to a new build house, which is where we've been for the past, very comfortable 8 years. 

But these times, they are a changin'.  We now have two children, two dogs and a home based business to try to accommodate into our living space, which has proven pretty difficult over the past 12 months. 

One of the things I have found most difficult working from home, is the challenge of separating work from family life; working from the spare room upstairs, which is smack bang in the middle of both the main bedrooms, has, it would be fair to say, kind of gotten in the way.  I don't say this lightly. I am sure most self employed folk who work from home will be able to resonate when I say, the temptation to work all the time, even during the time you should be with your family, is pretty intense.  Making that shift from being an employed person, to becoming self employed and realising you are solely responsible for generating enough income to live on – every month -  is a pretty heavy gear-shift to have to adjust to.  And I admit, I have found it really very hard to switch off from that very work-focused mind-set to a more relaxed, 'time to be mum' way of thinking.

In my experience, if you work from home, one of the most important and crucial things you must do, is learn to separate work from family/personal time.  Having segregated spaces and dedicated times when you can focus on and enjoy both aspects of you life separately aint easy at time (I know, I've been through the stress, fall outs and frustration that come with working from home – trust me).  One of the reasons we chose our new house is because it provides a completely separate work space.  I'll get my own room downstairs which has it's own kitchenette and everything! I am so excited about seeking out a little pale-green tea-pot to put in there ;)

Phil visited our new house earlier this week to check a few things out.   That's the view from the raised deck looking down on to the back of the house below – the main living area is upstairs you see – I guess the builder was wanting to maximise the enjoyment of the beautiful view of the moors, that these little iphone photos that Phil took really do no justice to…

Our beautiful new house...

The image above there is Phil's car parked on the drive of the new house. I love that tree just behind it and the view of the hills on the moors beyond.  The house is a the top of a hill – and at the bottom, the river Esk that inspired our daughters name runs through.

For us, this house, the location – it really is a dream come true and just 3 years ago, I could never have imagined having this amazing opportunity.  Anyone who reads this blog regularly will probably already be familiar with my love of Whitby and the surrounding area.  My husband grew up nearby and introduced me to the area when we met 12 years ago.  It is the place that he proposed to me and the place we got married.  It is a place rich in Beeforth family history – going back literally hundreds and hundreds of years.  It's the place that makes us feel like 'we are home'. 

I feel so, so lucky.  But you know, I also really, truly believe that you make your own luck. Phil and I have worked damn hard over these past 3 years – always believing in ourselves, sometimes doing stuff that didn't convince or totally confused other people and often taking risks, but knowing all the while that it would just work out. It suddenly feels like all that sleep deprivation, stress and frustration I referred to earlier is paying off.  It's time for a bit new chapter and change in our lives, and whilst I might be a little scared, I'm so super excited.  We're taking a risk moving even now – we haven't sold our current home yet but took the decision to leave it vacant and on the market and move anyway.  We both hope it will sell soon, but we have both accepted it might not sell as quickly as we'd like. We'll just have to wait and see. What we did know was that if we didn't grab this opportunity to move now – that single space left in our daughter's school year and our beautiful house on the hill, would probably have been taken by someone else.  Sometimes you just gotta dive in headfirst and trust your instincts.

So, all focus now (well, for me, anyway) is on styling a beautiful empty space by the sea. It's been absolutely ages since I did anything in the 'home-decor' department, and I can't wait to get started. I'm currently channeling an interiors obsession for all things mid century and G-Plan. God help me and my e-bay twitchin' purse.

I want to work really hard to make the girls bedroom a beautiful place, somewhere they feel they can retreat to, to rest and have fun at the same time.  I never moved house as a child, but I can imagine suddenly being away from all your friends and everything you've come to know must be pretty daunting – at least for our soon-to-be 7 year old daughter Eska anyway. Leanora is just 2, and I think as long as her Mr Rabbit teddy bear comes to live with us, she will be happy :) 

It would be great to hear from readers who have move with children, or moved as children, what your experience was?  Both Eska's Daddy and I are very aware of how this huge life change might affect our daughters, and it was one of the reasons that held us back from moving in the first place, but we've taken time to all talk about it together as a family, and Eska seems pretty excited.

Last night, I introduced Eska to Pinterest.  She so completely got it, and whist there aren't many photos there right now,
she spent half an hour drooling over pretty pink children's bedrooms.
She's not your typical 'pink' kind of little girl; for the
first year of her life, I preferred not to dress her in pink at all as I
didn't want to fit any stereotypes (the downside of that was I lost
count of the number of people who would say 'ahhh, isn't he lovely!' as I
proudly pushed her around the shopping centre in her little blue
hand-knits).   But Eska is head strong and has a mind of her
own and seems very firm on pale pink walls, so pale pink they shall be.  I shall be certainly having a bit of my own way however and decorating those walls with some beautiful wall art.

Eska currently has this set of reusabe fabric wall stickers on her bedroom walls by Love Mae – which I completely adore.  Love Mae have expanded their collection considerably since I last ordered from them, and we're looking forward to ordering more wall art stickers – but which ones? I fancy this tea-time set, and this fishy tales set – what do you think? :)

More from the Love Mae range of collection of reusable fabric wall stickers

Reusable fabric wall art stickers by Love Mae

I can't wait to fill my office and make it feel my own too.  I'm currently searching for the perfect new desk – you wouldn't believe how long this has taken already!

Taking pride
of place will be my beautiful new vintage telephone that I picked up
from an antique store in Kendal in the Lake Distinct last week when I went to visit my sister (the shop was on Wildman street
near the Riverside Hotel, for anyone round that neck of the woods).  This is an original early 1940's bakelite phone which cost me a small fortune, but oh, it is just so so beautiful. It makes the perfect little clunk sound when you replace the receiver and it just feels so beautiful to hold.  And it works!! Total telephone porn…

My beautiful vintage 1940s bakelite telephone

So, it's all change in the Beeforth household and I'm ready to take it on and face new challenges and start a start a whole new chapter in our lives.  We collect the keys in six days time and will be moving between then and Christmas and spending the festive season in our new house. I cannot wait.

In other news, I was tweeting my blogging idol last night – Jamie Beck, the co-founder (along with her now husband, Kevin Burg) of the cinemagraph (you can see more of those on Jamie's blog 'From Me To You' here).  I'm slightly obsessed with Jamie's incredible life and innate sense of beautiful, elegant personal style.  One of my dreams is to be able to meet Jamie for a very glamorous cup of coffee in her home city of New York. And I'm gonna make sure I make that happen- you make your own luck, remember?  Talking of which, you should read this post – it's inspiring.

I'd love to hear from you on all things change – what changes are happening in your life right now? Is anyone else moving house – and um, moving before Christmas? Can anyone offer advice on how to make it an easier move for young children?  And, what are your experiences of working from home and trying to keep the work and personal life separate?

Have a lovely weekend won't you. 

Lots of love,

Annabel

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29 thoughts on Moving House and Making Changes…

  1. We moved house a fair bit when I was growing up, and every time (that I remember) was an adventure with a new place to explore and a new bedroom to make my own. My mum made sure that everywhere we went I had visited before we moved and we’d talk together about what we wanted our new home to be like. Whenever I started at a new school I always had an opener (sweets to share with other kids or I had met one or two in advance so I had a buddy before I began) We kept in touch with people from our old homes (not everyone, but enough!) and over the years with us moving, and our friends and family moving too, we’ve got familiar faces to welcome us in most parts of England. It’s not easy moving away from friends and playmates but children are resilient creatures and as long as they feel part of the adventure they will enjoy it as much as you. Good luck!

  2. Annabel, I’m so happy for you! I dream of the day we’ll be able to move. My dream, though, is a bit different from yours :) I live in a house that even after 5 years still doesn’t feel like home. If for various reasons we couldn’t live London, I’d love to either get a converted warehouse apartment (I dream of high ceilings, light flooding in from the big windows, and freestanding steel kitchen in the middle of my entertaining space). But my biggest dream is having a small detached house by the sea in Apulia, the region where my family originally comes from, with land and olive trees….
    With regards to moving children, my parents moved when I was 6 1/2. On the first night in the new house I remember calling my mum and telling her I was sadand scared that I’d miss my friends. Of course she promised me that I would continue seeing them if I wanted to… In the first day at school I was petrified, but the teacher put me at ease straight away and to this day I remember 3 kids who did their best to make me stop crying. I genuinely don’t remember any more tears and in no time i made wanderful friends whom i still close to. Our lifestyle improved dramatically – we went to live in a country village where us kids could go to play outside, and we had a beautiful big garden. Children love these things and the freedom open space gives them, and can adapt incredibly quickly. I also remember visiting the carpenter who designed a huge wardrobe space for me that had secret draws and a catwalk (it wasn’t meant to be, but that’s what it felt like for me!) and a whole wall of mirrors! I felt like a model or a princess! I loved being part if the planning process with my mum, so I’m sure Eska will love it too if you let her being part of it.
    Moving house is life changing, but I’m totally with you, we make our own luck and reap the fruitage of our own labour!
    Lots of love xx
    Ps- apologies for any mistakes – I’m writing with an iPhone, which doesn’t seem to like my spelling!

  3. Hiya Faith,
    This is great – thank you! We’re actually taking Eska out of school next Friday to come with us to pick up the keys, and spend an afternoon in her new school – she’s really excited, which I see as a very good omen! Might have to send her in with some goodies for the children :)
    There is so, so much adventure to be had where we are moving. I really feel confident that these will turn out to be some of the best times of our lives.
    xXx

  4. THIS! Yes, this.
    One of the reasons we are moving is to improve our lifestyle – considerably. Living by the sea, in the countryside – it is this environment that we personally want to raise our children in. And I believe it will enrich and enhance our lives a good deal. The downsides are – there will be no big shops on the door step (I live 2 mins drive from the Metro Centre right now and we are a 5 min car drive from Newcastle City Centre which is fab), but I just adore being by the sea, and our new home is just 3 miles out of Whitby, with a little unmanned train station at the bottom of the road just 2 stops away! It will be ‘hopping on the train for fish and chips’ on a Friday methinks hehehe :)
    Thank you so much for taking time to leave such a lovely, encouraging email. I really do appreciate it.
    And don’t apologise for any errors! My spell check failed and I published the post with some ghastly typos! I *hope* there are non still lurking!! ;)
    xXx

  5. Congratulations Annabel. You’ve worked very hard for it and I’m sure you’ll create lots of happy memories there. How beautiful that you now live by the river you named your chid after :) x

  6. Annabel, you’re too sweet- thank you for the link love! And what a beautiful house and setting to be moving too. You deserve it!
    I love a personal post, me. Please do share more as you make your house a beautiful home! That phone is a cracking start, LOVE IT. xx

  7. Hi Annabel,
    Congratulations on the move, the new home and the new start. We moved to a different area two years ago. We found a beautiful house in a lovely little village. We didn’t know anyone in the area and it meant my daughter having to move schools and leave all her friends behind. However, we have no regrets – not one. It was the best move we ever made and we are very happy here. We have met loads of lovely people and both us and our children have made friends for life. It felt like the right thing to do at the time. We trusted or instinct and we were so right.
    I am sure that if it feels right to you then it will be the best thing for you and your family and you will be very happy. It certainly looks stunning. Good luck with the move and for the future.
    Gail x

  8. Hi Annabel – Congratulations on the new house. How exciting, I have stacks of house porn in the guise of Elle Decoration just waiting to used on an empty house… one day!
    The girls will love it and all that space to run around in.
    xx

  9. Oooh so excited for you, Annabel. I moved to London from Switzerland about 2 years ago, which was such a huge change for me. I moved into dingy student accommodation, and it was quite a challenge to make the place look somewhat nice, but I still feel nostalgic about it, because it is where Bob and I spent our first few weekends etc. together.
    Then we moved into a 2 bedroom flat,which is where we plan on staying for the next few years, and the decorating has been so much fun!
    I think it’s great how you try to include Eska into the whole process, I think it will really help her to adjust. She seems like a very opinionated girl with good taste, so I’m sure you two will have lots of fun. Maybe also ask for her opinion about/ have her help choose thngs for the kitchen or living room, because I think the whole move will be so much more fun for her if she feels she is part of the whole decision-making process.
    Whitby always reminds me of Dracula, and its actua descriptions in the novel are beautiful, so I think you’ll be moving to a magical place!

  10. What a dream house! This is the kind of house and location that home dreams are made of! Congratulations! I am sure it will be all you need and want it to be and more. City life is addictive, I still dream of living somewhere utterly beautiful. Really happy for you.
    Dana x

  11. Congratulations! We moved quite a bit when I was a kid (for my dad’s work) and I spent ages 10-15 living in Germany. It was an amazing experience as a kid made really easy by the fact that all the other kids in the international school were in the same boat, so everyone became a pro at making friends quickly! I found moving schools easier than my sister, who was much more shy than I was, but she just needed a bit more help settling in. Moving is what you make of it and if you are upbeat and enthused, then it will rub off on your kids. We always thought it was a big adventure because our parents made it one! Today my parents live in Manchester, where I’ve never lived myself, but I still consider it ‘home’ because home has always been the house that they inhabit and make home. I hope I can do the same for my own kids one day.

  12. So excited for you, adore that part of the world, we try stay at least once a year. Its a dream to have a holiday cottage nearby Whitby. Glad to see other readers have stashes of Elle Decoration, I have a small library! Wishing you lots of love and luck in your new home, living the dream :) xxxx PS I used to live in Gateshead area, hardly compares!

  13. Brilliant news, I know how excited you are about this move. The children will be absolutely fine. As a child we moved around all the time, I went to three schools in one year. We moved to our house now on 12th December! The first thing we did before unpacking boxes was to go and buy a Christmas Tree. We decorated it and left the unpacking for another day. You do make your own luck. I dreamt of having somewhere to rent for all my vintage things and in a few short months had planned our Open Day. We even made a little film! We will definitely come to visit. Toby’s teacher is from Whitby so he’d like to visit too!!

  14. I am so happy for you Annabel and your family! You truly deserve this. This is a very inspirational post for anybody who started their own home business not a long time ago (like myself) and is going through the different stages of stress, tiredness, success and excitement which come with it. Thank you so much for sharing it, you really made my day, such things give me strength to carry on!
    I wish you all the best with decorating your new home, have a lot of fun doing it! xx

  15. Love your positive attitude, and your excitement about moving is infectious.
    We’ve already moved twice with children – once when my boy was just one, which was fine, apart from him emptying boxes that were packed all the time! And once two years ago. The boy was 5, and the big girl 3. The little one was only 3 months then! That was harder, but we all knew we were doing it for a good reason… but now we’re moving again, which I’m documenting here: http://lookslikeweremoving.blogspot.co.uk/ This time the kids are 7, 5, and 2, and they are incredibly excited. Like you, we are moving to the place we always wanted to live together, plus there’s relatives nearby, which will be a first for us, plus my husband’s got a great new job. We just went to look at the house again this morning. There’s lots of things that are a pain about moving but mainly we’re all SO EXCITED!
    Love those wall stickers, I may pinch a bit of inspiration there!
    Thanks for sharing this. Hope you had a fab Christmas and New Year in your new home.

  16. I moved around a lot as child and always found it exciting! I think it probably helped that my parents always let me pack a bag for me with all the very important things I thought I’d need on the first night. This helped me feel included.
    Fingers crossed your move goes (or has gone) smoothly. I found a fun moving house tips infographic on a website for a local company down here in Kent that I thought you might find helpful.

  17. A great post, your new house looks fabulous. Moving can be so stressful but when you are all settled in it is definitely worth it. We actually used self storage when we moved and it really helped to take a bit of the stress away. The kids loved it when we moved, it was all a big adventure to them.

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