Back in July I decided I was going to make my own wedding dress for our wedding next September. Consequently, this weekend I took the same trip that my mum and my granny had previously taken together to a fabric boutique called Borovicks Fabrics in Soho to pick my dress fabric. Whilst trawling through the many different types of lace with the assistant, we talked about how it’s become something of a tradition making the wedding dress in our family. The assistant then turns to mum and says, “So mum, how long have you been married?”. Cue a slightly awkward pause and a jolt back to reality.
Perhaps it might be helpful for me to interject some history to help you understand exactly why. By the time our wedding comes around my parents will have been divorced for 11 years. Sometimes those years have been tough but I moved past the ‘Parent Trap’ phase quite a while ago and feel that both of my parents are now much happier. Though with that said, if there’s one occasion to really bring out difficult family dynamics it’s a wedding! I don’t want to dwell on the past in this post too much but think touching on it may help explain my choices and I hope through writing this is that it will help other brides-to-be who may be in similar situations.
I want to start off by saying that my mum is amazing. She has spent the last 10 years making sure that my siblings and I continued to have a good relationship with Dad regardless of how painful that has been for her. That my dad was leaving came completely out of the blue and was such a big adjustment to make. Just one Sunday over lunch he said he was leaving next Friday, and it seemed as simple as that.